Mr. Deeds: Big Hearts, Big Laughs, and the Psychology of Kindness

In this episode of Wicked Psychotherapists, we have some big laughs while diving into the even bigger heart of Mr. Deeds. 

We explore why Deeds' kindness, generosity, and natural instinct to help others make him such a standout character — and why those traits still resonate today.

 Through a playful psychological lens, we talk about how goodness challenges cynicism, what it means to stay true to yourself, and why the world could use a few more Deeds. 

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0:08

You are listening to Wicked Psychotherapists, a podcast where two psychotherapists show you that taking care of and learning about mental health doesn't have to be wicked hat.

Erin: 0:31

Hey guys, it's Tanya. Hi, it's Erin and welcome to Wicked Psychotherapist.

Tanya: 0:36

Yeah, so today we are going to be jumping into the Adam Sandler universe. we're gonna be talking about, today and probably next time some Adam Sandler, movies because we love him. Mm-hmm. And he is, hilarious and. We don't care what you say. Um, so some people, yeah, we might do future movies too, if we figure Yeah, yeah, for sure. Because he is, he's a, he's someone, I think I grew up just feeling like he was hilarious, and I know he's very polarizing. Some people like him, some people don't. But we hear it with psychotherapists. Love him. he maybe has some immature humor. Maybe he just makes noises sometimes, but that's funny to us. So, today we're gonna talk about the movie Mr. Deeds, from 2002, where, it's apparently we just learned this is a remake of a depression era movie called Mr. Deeds Goes to town. I only knew that'cause I saw it written somewhere. Mm-hmm. I had no idea.

Erin: 1:33

I had no idea. I never heard of that until you mentioned it today.

Tanya: 1:36

Yeah, it was not well received as a remake of that. But we still think this movie holds up on its own. We didn't watch the other movie.'cause Adam Sandler is in a category all his own. Mm-hmm. and this movie also contains one of our other favorites When On Rider. Oh yeah. That's the tie in. there's a great combination here in this movie. have they done ever other movies before? I dunno. In Winona, I can't think of any, but I feel like,

Erin: 2:04

I don't know.'cause I was thinking Drew Barrymore when you said that, but, so I don't know if they've done, no. Him and Jennifer Aniston have done like three movies together.

Tanya: 2:13

Oh yeah. Yeah. They had all the Netflix ones that were like, apparently they, they were. Loved to be like hated, but people wanted to keep watching them sort of thing. Right. Like that was the formula behind it, but Right. This movie has a lot of comedic elements to it. It is really, it's just a fun movie. and really deals with some, some themes in mental health that are. We're kind of a little bit more on the, the outskirts, you know, things that we usually talk about, but definitely has some elements there. Mm-hmm. so you know, the first thing is probably just Mr. Deeds or Deeds Longfellow. Deeds Longfellow. Did they ever say why his name is Longfellow?

Erin: 2:50

Maybe it was just something to be a little fancier or because his. Mother knew who his uncle was, or I don't know, maybe it's some family name. Like, oh great, now they're gonna know my name. Yeah.

Tanya: 3:02

he's like, yeah, it's kind of, yeah. And he prefers to just be called deeds.'cause he is kind of like an everyday man. He is not a fancy man in his Town in New Hampshire. And man Drake Falls, which is made up, of course, He's very much just kind of a small town guy who is very friendly. He owns like a pizza shop. He wants to get greeting cards published. He's kind of got these really, overly rhymed poems that are fit for Hallmark. He keeps submitting them and he's just a nice guy. You just kind of see he's really, he, he cares about the people around him. he's not upset in the opening scene when, his friend comes in with, the two guys that are looking for him. And the friend had called out and he's like, I really thought you were sick, huh? And he

Erin: 3:46

And he just keeps on it of like, you did such a good job. You're such a good actor. Like, just such positive praise. Instead of like, most bosses or friends would be like, oh my God, you left me hanging. What a jerk. You know, but,

Tanya: 3:58

or like, you're fired or like, you can't do that again. But he was just like, yeah, like that's a great performance. it really shows his character that he's, he's just got a, he's got a good heart. He's very much, he cares about people first before money and, and, you know, connecting with other people. Mm-hmm. And he's got a good relationship with them. Right. yeah. And, and so we, we kind of see that we. We start to, we also see that he, unbeknownst to him, he is related to some, you know, media tycoon who's worth billions of dollars, who passes away on a mountain, frozen

Erin: 4:33

on Everest. He gets on the top and he is like, I like how they depicted it too. It's just like he's just hugging.

Tanya: 4:39

frozen in tongue,

Erin: 4:40

So happy he made it, but just in a Popsicle now.

Tanya: 4:43

And he goes out doing what he wanted to do, and he's got some characteristics of deeds, right? you know, you can see how they're related. They really want to do things that are, good for them. They care about people. they're determined to, do things that make them happy, and bring happiness. yeah, these two kind of, I guess, executives of, you know, that are part of the board come to get deeds and inform him, Hey, you just inherited$40 billion, you're the next closest heir. and deeds is like when they tell him like, Hey, you're, you're next in line for a 40 billion fortune. He's like. Oh yeah. And then he goes on and like starts talking about something else. Yeah. And like, like that somebody had just said to him and he is like, wait, did you just say that? Like he process in his mind. Yeah. He's like,

Erin: 5:24

I have to deliver these pizzas.

Tanya: 5:25

he's very friendly. He helps that older man cross the street, literally carries him on his back to get him there. he's a very affable guy. so we kind of start to see that there's this buildup of, a really great guy who has small town values and really cares about people and he's about to. Go to, the big city in New York. I guess nobody's ever left the town before. He is like, I'm the first person ever to leave, except for when somebody went to Disney World or something.

Erin: 5:52

Then like it's a big parade everyone, you know, or something like, everyone's just like big, big, big event for him leaving.

Tanya: 5:59

Yeah. It's like nobody ever does that. And then he's going in a helicopter. But then also

Erin: 6:03

you wonder if other people would've had quite the response or deeds because he's so well liked and just pretty,

Tanya: 6:11

you know, just such a big part of the community. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But then he reaches New York and kind of is just, really friendly to everyone. He gives them hugs, he doesn't like shake hands, even though they're like these corporate types or like people that are kind of around the house that are very much kind of not used to being treated in such a friendly manner. And he's just, you know, he just treats everyone the same. He is, they're all equals to him. And yeah, it starts to set up this kind of realization that he carries with him something that these people around him probably don't and probably, maybe never have or maybe have been, kind of corrupted by corporate greed, money, things like that. so that's kind of a big theme is, you know, integrity being unchanged even though His place changes. he's not really, he's not changed by that. He has really strict kind of morals and values, and that's just who he is. He doesn't try to change that or hide that. He's not ashamed of it. he defends it. when he's out on a date with Babe, who is Winona Rider, you know, and the, the guys invite him over kind of to, to make fun of him essentially, right. He's like, oh, so you guys didn't invite me over here to like, be nice. Like you guys are really unkind, you know? And kind of is just like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry Mrs. Dawson, you know? And yeah, he's like, well, we're gonna leave. And he doesn't, you know, he doesn't do anything really, to, to get them back except when he then, you know, punches them out. That's, yeah. That's how kind of he does get revenge on them. Yeah. He, he just shows that he's, he's a, he's a good character. he can't really be changed by that even though he knows he's inheriting$40 billion. Right. Which is not just life changing money, it's generational life changing money. so he's not changed by that even. yeah. What other themes do we have? Kind of hook up with Mr. Deeds?

Erin: 7:55

well there's, the empathy, like, you know, like his huge bit, you know, like that he has like, you know, and probably dealing with how it seems like everybody at his uncles company, they're more driven by greed or power in trying to navigate that and trying to. Figure out who he is. Like outside of a lot of self identity, trying to figure out who he is outside of Main, main, what is, what is the name of the town he's in, man? Mandrake Falls. Mandrake Falls so he's trying to find out who he is outside of Mandrake Falls and being in the big city and trying to acclimate, but also not losing who he is. You know, it's interesting too, like he never seems like he really gets angry at the people like that he's being exposed to. He is just like, all right, I under, you know, kind of almost understanding why they're

Tanya: 8:50

acting certain ways, but I don't know. Yeah. And I, I almost kind of wonder, and this is, I, I have not seen the, the movie that this was kind of, I guess. Based on or remake of, or like a loose remake of in the, like twenties, 19. Mm-hmm. 1920s. So, God. but the, I, I wonder if it was during the depression era, if it was kind of more of a, a thinking of like, Hey, being a good person as opposed to capitalism is better because mm-hmm. There was a lot of, mm-hmm. Maybe I think thinking that had to go around of, you know, we don't have very much, but you can be appreciative of what you have.

Erin: 9:24

And also it's like a lot of the corporate ethics and some like, indeed seems like he is trying to take responsibility. So even how he tries to go into the. Boardroom and everything. He is like, Hey, I just wanna see if there's anything I can do or how can I help? And they're like, that's not, you know, like, so they're, they get kind of annoyed with him'cause it's not how they want it to work. They're in a, you know, they wanna make money, they're trying to sell the company, sell the stocks and deeds is like, well I wanna try to help this one player. You know, like realize that, he has to behave. Do these other things. So he's trying to really see the ethical part of running a business because that's how, he's seen it as a business owner of his pizza place. So now he is trying to use that same mindset into his

Tanya: 10:11

uncle's billion dollar, you know, multiple companies. Yeah. Like not seeing that the, you know, he, he really is a, a very caring. Manager or boss, you know, owner. Right. And, and really, you know, will give out pizzas for free to, to people and help people out. but in this instance, this is all about yeah, how much money can we squeeze out? The little person. And, I think that's, that's eventually what brings him back to kind of fight for that money. He walks away from it and says, just donate it to whatever you think is, is worthy and. You know, when he hears, oh, well actually, you know, what's his name? Eyebrows, Peter Gallagher's. Character. Character. I can't think of his name. Cedar or something? Yeah.

Erin: 10:50

At the, it's Cedar.

Tanya: 10:51

Mr. Cedar. or see, I don't know. I don't know. Whatever eyebrow dude. He was like, Chuck er. Yeah. He, when he decides to sell off the cut, he's going to make a vote to sell it off in pieces, and then like 50,000 people are gonna lose their jobs. And that's what really touches, Mr. Deed's heart. And he's like, oh no, that's, that's not right. he's definitely very much like, you know, it's the heart versus the head Kind of thing.

Erin: 11:14

Yeah.'cause he sees'em as people. He doesn't just see'em as. Financial obligations or how, how much money are we gonna lose or how much money are we gonna make? Not having these people, he's seeing them, oh wait, each one of them is a person and they have a family and they have responsibilities. That's probably how, going back to his one employee who was fake and sick, he's probably like, ah, you're doing so good. This is, you're so funny. But he's probably not gonna fire him because he knows his friend. That's probably all his. Whatever he was doing at the, airport, you'd know sitting in the chair. Oh, yeah.

Tanya: 11:48

Yeah. And it's his friend and he like cares about him, so he is like, oh, all right. Well, he just, he doesn't even get mad about it. He's just totally, he's fine with it. But, yeah. And I think that, you know, coming back to, to this, it's just a completely different worldview. It's. Really kind of the David and Goliath kind of mentality of like, you know, this smaller person, you know, smaller person values taking on Kind of this mega Goliath of, you know, what's, you know, kind of the, the usual in business. And he kind of turns it on its head and doesn't want really anything to do with it if it's gonna be, You know, these types of politics. And I think he realizes that, and that's why he is just like, I don't want this. Like, this isn't my thing, you know? and there's also another piece that we haven't really touched on, which is Winona's character Babe, which I do not understand why her name is Babe, but it is, yeah.

Erin: 12:37

what the nickname. Barbara maybe, I don't know. What would you call ba, like what would a nickname for Babe be like if someone's real name, I don't know. Or maybe their parent, her parents

Tanya: 12:46

Or her parents have no idea named her babe.

Erin: 12:48

I don't know.

Tanya: 12:49

Yeah, I was like, that's a strange, yeah. Okay. And plus that sounds very, I, I may be totally off here, but that sounds kind of like southern to me. Mm-hmm. But she didn't seem, I know she think we're looking too much into it.

Erin: 13:02

it's movie land.

Tanya: 13:04

But yeah, she, she initially just, you know, she's a, a, a producer at, at a, newspaper and she's. Basically just trying to get the story on him. She's wearing like a hidden camera, but then in the process she falls in love with him, sees how much of a good person he is, right? See how much he, he cares about people. And, but you know, with the powers that be and people working to, to kind of make him feel sad and wanna walk away, they disclose that and mm-hmm. Basically he's hurt and he just kind of wants nothing to do with this. Right. He's very heartbroken. He's never really, apparently he is never really dated too much and so. This is just a, a big heartbreak for him. Yeah. Because he's very innocent. He doesn't really, you know, he takes things at face value. He sees the good in everyone.

Erin: 13:46

Well, it also makes you realize how trusting deeds is when all of those. The videos come when he is with John McEnroe and they're like being, crazy. and he is just like, how did people get this video? The shots. I mean like who else was there? Babe was there.

Tanya: 14:04

That's what I was thinking too.

Erin: 14:05

Like he's just so trusting and he is just like, it just even with when he was rescuing the woman in HER seven cats and he is just like, how did this come, you know, that's so weird. Like those shots, it's just, you know, never would think'cause he's just so trusting and just, you know, like, no one would hurt me or, you know. This person has her best interest, you know, has, has my best interest, or she's my friend, or I'm dating her.

Tanya: 14:27

Yeah, he really, he really likes her. and it's funny because you would think that would be like, oh, it could have been anyone nowadays with who, everybody has a phone. But it just wasn't like that back in 2002. It really would've had to have been, you know, somebody doing that intentionally, but He just doesn't think that way. he's very naive and open and trusting. You know, she realizes she loves him, but he figures out, oh, you've been lying to me. you're not a school nurse.

Erin: 14:53

with Dr. Pepper, he brings

Tanya: 14:54

her back to like her, her hometown of Winfield V or

Erin: 14:58

Yeah, I think it's Winchester Field v Iowa.

Tanya: 15:01

Just that sounds so made up. Although I'm sure there is a city like that out there, that everyone looks at

Erin: 15:05

her like they're insane when they go into like the little diner.

Tanya: 15:07

remember her as like the girl who had a hump. And he's like, no, you had a big hump.

Erin: 15:11

yes, that was me.

Tanya: 15:13

Yeah.

Erin: 15:14

It's like, yeah.'cause she had to stay

Tanya: 15:15

with the lie. Yeah. And then they go to the home and she's like, yep, this is where we would, you know, go to the dining room and have the food. And, you know, just afraid he is like, ah, these three, like young kids, let them. it's a really, I mean, it really does show, there's so many instances where he could have noticed, Hey, this person is not telling me the truth, but because of who he is as a person, he trusts people. He really sees the good in them. He does not see that. And I think when he found that out, it really, it really hurt him. And he really felt like, oh, I can't even be in this place. This is not a good place. I need to go home. Right. And so he, he goes back and he only wants to go and, and. You know, go back to New York when he hears that, yeah, those people are gonna be fired and he cares about that. but yeah, there's a lot of, you know, kind of looking for some of the mental health themes are a little bit of a stretch, but they're definitely there. There's always some there.

Erin: 16:16

yeah. With humans, you know, there probably is. There's always some theme. Yeah. we just wanted to like. Go to Mr. D's'cause it has Winona Rider, but then we're thinking we wanna kind of switch to Adam Sandler for a little bit too, because that's kind of how our brain works too.

Tanya: 16:32

Yeah. It's a nice handoff, you know, like Winona to to Adam and yeah.

Erin: 16:38

I think it was cute, but I don't think it was. As good as she's had with other people. Like, you know, if we go back to our Johnny Depp talks or stuff

Tanya: 16:49

oh, that was tremendous.

Erin: 16:50

I think they had fun together. You could tell they probably, it's probably a fun, you know, if fun way to work together. And I think it was believable.

Tanya: 17:00

I think so too. I think they did kind of have more of a friend. Like a fun friend vibe kind of thing, but that definitely did work for that because it seemed like he was very inexperienced and that's kind of, Who he would click with. But yeah, it worked. Yeah, for sure. and I think that this was, it's just a fun movie I think to watch and to see. You know I think for a lot of people they might be kind of wondering like, why would he just give up$40 billion? I was one of those. Yeah. Because I was like, wow. I would probably take like a billion and be like, Hey, I'm set for life. And then maybe they could, Donate the rest

Erin: 17:40

Or give it to all the employees,

Tanya: 17:40

I don't think I'd want the whole response or to, to stay in New York or the whole responsibility of managing that.'cause that just, that seems like that would definitely change Charact.

Erin: 17:48

That you'd have to be in New York. That's not, yeah.

Tanya: 17:50

But I mean, I don't know for him to say, you know, it sounds like he really likes his life and he really sees the value of like, connecting with people. Mm-hmm. There is a reality. No matter what you do, you do need money. I mean, you know, maybe not a billion. Right? But you need some stuff. And like even just to help people, you need money. So you need that. Yeah. And especially'cause

Erin: 18:09

it does seem like a lot of his heart is, how can I help people for free? So you, why not figure out a way that he could have some of that, maybe not a billion, maybe something less, because maybe that feels too much. But figure out a way, like, let me make sure my business is paid off, and how can I start a nonprofit giving free pizzas away or something, you know, whatever it is that he wants to do with that or.

Tanya: 18:36

Yeah. Or like a, you know, community center for his town or for like other places or something like that. Could have been, that would've been right up his alley, I think. Mm-hmm.

Erin: 18:44

Yeah. Definitely not leaving the town, you know, because it's Scary for everybody. I'll just donate it to

Tanya: 18:48

whoever you know, and I mean, so I have a logistical question, and this is probably so stupid. I don't know why I overanalyze stuff that is not real and does not matter. Okay. And is the early two thousands of it all, but so he donated. He, he said, just, you know, what, what do you recommend? And they were like the United Negro College Fund. Right. You know, like, which I do not believe that's what it's called anymore. but you know, that was what it was called back then. And I don't know, maybe it's, but he, so, so that money, you see the guy open it and he is like, ah, he just like, he's like, you know, that's like life-changing money. Yeah. For, and you know, in terms of like, for any, any program would be crazy, you know. So it's already donated. So when they figure out that the butler is actually his, like, you know, secret love child or whatever, what money is left? None. because it's already given away, right?

Erin: 19:36

Well, no, I would think that check would bounce, because then it would all go back to the original, you know, like to, You know, the sneaky guy? What is his name? I'm very sneaky. the guy who's the father? Who's the son of the uncle.

Tanya: 19:48

Oh, Emilio. Emilio. The Butler. Yes. Yeah. But why would it, I mean,'cause it was there and they thought at the time it was, it was his. Mm-hmm. Right. And so, I mean, it would be sent to this. I know this is completely ridiculous. I am like trying to find out any verse. Yeah, I dunno.

Erin: 20:04

Logistically, they'd probably have to take some of the money back or tell the nonprofit, the corporation, you know, like, Hey, I know we just donated 40 million, but we're gonna have to change that a little.

Tanya: 20:19

I mean, I would think so too, but I think that once that's a donate, like that's kind of hard to get. I don't know. Maybe they can't, but I'm sure legally,

Erin: 20:24

like in real life, you, if you commit to a donation, You probably have to give it, but I don't know.

Tanya: 20:30

matter if it's, you know, like, but then again, maybe the, because it wasn't legally The right source. Yeah. Yeah. So he,

Erin: 20:36

he, so deeds really didn't have any say on how the money could be donated or couldn't be

Tanya: 20:43

Then they'd be like, oh, well your, that's actually null and void. You have to say that. Yeah, this isn't really, isn't kind of crappy. You know, you get excited and then you're not. Yeah, yeah. and then Emilio decides to give him, he's like, what can I give you? And he's like, I just wanna be your friend. He's like, what about a billion? He's like, all right, I'll take it. And I was like, okay. Why would you not take that?

Erin: 21:00

Yeah. Well maybe.'cause it feels different.'cause now this is his, um, cousin. What is it? What is he to him?

Tanya: 21:06

Uncle, so he was his great, uncle, I think. Right?

Erin: 21:10

his great uncle has a son and then that would be his uncle, right? I don't know. So he's the

Tanya: 21:17

great nephew.

Erin: 21:18

Yeah.

Tanya: 21:18

And then this, I have to like draw this out and then use the sun. Yeah. I think it would be.

Erin: 21:24

So Tanya's

Tanya: 21:25

doing

Erin: 21:26

a family. Family, a genogram. Genogram.

Tanya: 21:28

don't, honestly. You'll have to have to raise it up

Erin: 21:30

so we can see in case we do a clip of it.

Tanya: 21:32

So this is on a scribble piece of paper. if anyone knows,

Erin: 21:35

Would Emilio be the uncle or the cousin or this, you know,

Tanya: 21:38

I can't, my brain is not, I can't think of it. But maybe he accepted the

Erin: 21:42

billion from him because it's, yeah.'cause it feels less slimy. It's not from a big corporation, it's from someone really kind.

Tanya: 21:49

and someone who he knows is gonna keep his father's, like someone who really cared about his, uncle, great uncle or whatever. Yeah. Who's, you know, Emilio's father. Like, he actually really admired him, you know, along with feet and stuff. Yeah. So, he knows that this is of good coming from a good source. So that. Yeah. That, that does kind of change it, you know, and I think that also speaks to Mr. Deed's ethics. and his morals of this doesn't feel so bad. And he's like, all right, I'll take a billion, you know, kind of thing. Which I gotta say, if I were in his place, I don't, I don't think it would've been that ethical. I would not have been able to keep all 40. Billion. I don't think that felt good with the way things were. Yeah. But I think I wanted to ensure that this was a corporation that maybe was functioning in a different way. But I think you can get really caught up in that. Yeah. You don't wanna have to

Erin: 22:35

start, being in control of it.

Tanya: 22:37

Yeah. And I think it maybe would've just been better to be dismantled and make sure everybody kind of gets They're, you know, fair share kind of thing. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And not just the, the shareholders who are like, I need my money. Yeah.

Erin: 22:49

All I care about is money.

Tanya: 22:50

Yeah. But I definitely would've wanted a little bit of it, you know, like a billion is like by far more than enough, but, I would say. That's even like a quarter of that would be amazing.

Erin: 23:02

Especially I can't imagine that things are too expensive in Manda Falls, New Hampshire. Yeah.

Tanya: 23:11

Yeah. Babe and Mr. Deeds are together. And then, yeah. They just seem to be pretty, pretty happy with their life together. and I have to say, I think I would prefer to live in. Mandrake falls. Like, I think it would just be nice to have the option to go places. Yeah. You know, but I don't, I've, I've never been a big, like, oh, I need to be in New York and Oh, I need to like, make money and be around people who are like important'cause they make money kind of thing. Right?

Erin: 23:36

I haven't either. Sometimes I wish I was that person, but I like just being slow and, one with nature and less stuff around.

Tanya: 23:45

Yeah. No, I feel like it's a, I mean, because then you're just really living for this. Something that's like impermanent. Mm-hmm. I don't mean to sound all Buddhist, but like it is. Yeah. It's very impermanent, sure money can improve your life to a degree, but it's also, you know, past a certain point. It's in being able to appreciate it. That's just my own personal Feeling. You feel the same way. Yeah. Yeah, this was a really fun movie, really fun introduction to, the passing of the Winona Torch To Adam Sandler. Mm-hmm. So we hope you feel the same way. Yeah. Um, that, you know, you, you really like this Adam Sandler beginning. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And there's plenty,

Erin: 24:23

there's plenty of Adam Sandler movies to go. So let us know if you feel if there's any, I did wanna read the poem, the last poem, the, hallmark part. Oh, okay. So like

Tanya: 24:34

the chicken parm one.

Erin: 24:36

Well, the, was it the chicken parm one or was it the, the one that, the hallmark finally became a Hallmark card. It was the Oh, right, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So this is the one he made for Babe, and it's. Hard to breathe. Feels like floating so full of love. My heart's exploding. Mouth is dry. Hands are shaking. My heart is yours for the taking. Acting weird, not myself. Dancing around like the kill Keebler elf. Finally, time for this Porsche. Love to know and how it feels to fall in love.

Tanya: 25:08

Love and love, I think that's awesome and amazing and how they have different people reading it and being like, Aww. And like all like, that's great because it, it really is.

Erin: 25:20

nice sch slub and love slub and love'cause nothing rhymes with love. So you have to figure out. Yeah.

Tanya: 25:26

And I just, I thought of something, his style of poetry is very much like he. He is like, you know, maybe my, my poetry is not for everyone, but there are some people that like it and I think that's kind of his philosophy on Yeah. Who he is. Of I'm not gonna change because you think that this is the, the way to be successful and the way to be smart and, and you know, kind of hoity-toity. Instead, I'm gonna. I'm just gonna be myself.

Erin: 25:48

and I love at the funeral, like when Al Sharpton is like saying, he is like, yeah. He's like, oh, well I have to follow like grand rapper, you know, whatever, you know. But it's, I think it's it. I think that was fun to have that, that

Tanya: 26:01

It's a good movie. I like it. It was nice to revisit it and kind of see some of the things, with. Adam Sandler when he goes New England. I enjoy that when he does like a New England accent because he is originally from New York.

Erin: 26:13

Is he? I thought he was from New Hampshire. he's from New York now. I don't

Tanya: 26:15

know now. I don't know. I may have mixed that totally up. I don't know actually.

Erin: 26:22

Yeah, I have to look it up now, so I'm pretty sure he's a new Englander.

Tanya: 26:26

Oh, is he Okay. I thought maybe he just spends a lot of time in New York.

Erin: 26:30

from Manchester, New Hampshire.

Tanya: 26:31

Oh, okay. So he is, he is. Well, I appreciate, so he all around, that's why we love him. He was born

Erin: 26:38

in New York, but then I think he was raised in New Hampshire.

Tanya: 26:42

Oh, okay. So he is kind of got, he's got some, yeah. That's, a little mix there, but

Erin: 26:46

it sounds like he's got a lot. That's the quick look. Did, yeah. Yeah, I think, I don't think I knew that.'cause everything I've ever read about him is that he's like a new, like from New Hampshire. So he must have grown up in New Hampshire

Tanya: 26:57

because he definitely has like that he does the accent. Yeah. Yeah. And like he just kind of like that kind of like. Stereotypical, but we can say maybe is true in some instances kind of gruffness where he is just like, eh, you know, kind of shouts and, you know, just very, very kind of unique personality, which we find endearing and charming and we ourselves understand we are, you know, have been surrounded by it. Or are surrounded by it. Yeah.

Erin: 27:21

Well it's a lot of loud people.

Tanya: 27:24

yes, for sure. Yeah. But, yeah, it's, it's very much a, you know, pride thing New England, you know, with the Pats and the, yeah, the, the loudness, yeah. And the Dunking Donuts to, to know the stats

Erin: 27:38

he moved to, New Hampshire when he was six years old. Oh, Okay. So he is a New Englander.

Tanya: 27:43

Yeah, for sure. Six And on is, he's a New Englander. Yeah. And he does, and he, he also in his movie Huey Halloween or whatever, I think that's, that's out in Boston. I know it was filmed in, around like Salem. Or around that area. Massachusetts. Right. And he definitely has that accent in that, and I just think it's, it's just hilarious to us. That's probably another draw of why we, we love him.

Erin: 28:11

Yeah. Well, almost all his films are New England based, probably New Hampshire based

Tanya: 28:16

Yeah. He's probably less expensive to film there. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm sure he probably Knows people that he includes and friends and Yeah. You know, extras and he always includes his, like we were saying, you know, his cast. Yeah. It's usually a lot of the same people. Yeah. Which I think he uses very well.

Erin: 28:31

Yeah. He, he has like his same, like there's usually like pretty much everybody who is in grownups seems to make a, you see them in all of his filmed previous and after too.

Tanya: 28:40

Yeah. And some of his like former Saturday Night Live cast members, like around that time. Definitely all. Yeah, he's great. He's, he's our, he's a treasure to us. and again, if he's not your, if he's not your thing, then you know, that's fine. But we love him. Mm-hmm.

Erin: 28:55

I think it took me a while to get, to really embrace him, but then I was like, okay, I really like him. He is really funny.

Tanya: 29:01

Yeah, he's, I mean, it's tough because I remember the first movies I saw with him were like, I saw him on Saturday Night Live, and I was like, oh, he of funny. But like, I didn't really get. So just like, like, you know, kind of shouting at people things. Yeah. But I was like, that's kind of, I kind of like that and I kind of get it. Yeah. And, but then he did, you know, I think the first movie I saw was, happy Gilmore. Yeah. And I was like, he is so obnoxious, but like, I couldn't stop laughing. Yeah. I just loved it. He's somebody that I think whenever I see his face, he always makes me wanna Yeah. Watch that.

Erin: 29:36

Yeah. In his basketball shorts and t-shirts,

Tanya: 29:39

Yeah. He's a very casual person. Whenever there's like, and I don't, I don't know how, I don't think these are staged actually.'cause some people do stage ones, but he's pretty down to earth. He does kind of just walk around and whatever clothes shows up to award shows and just like shorts. Yeah. So I like that too. That is pretty cool. and some of his kids are starting to appear in some of his movies or like their own movies like one of his daughters was in a movie recently. I am blanking on the name, but it was on Netflix and it was, I think it was pretty well received too. And a couple of his daughters had made appearances in some movies. Mm-hmm. and his wife is an actress too. She was she's in almost every one of his movies, since they got married. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't know for the longest time. That was his wife. And I was like, why is she always in there? And then I realized, I was like, oh, she never has huge

Erin: 30:27

parts, but she's in like, almost every one of his, I think her name's Jackie.

Tanya: 30:32

So should we move on to, I'm trying to think of a, of a fun question to ask. Yeah. okay. So if, if you had the choice between. Living a life in like a small New England town or just a small town where you felt really connected with people, with no money. Or if you went and lived and had to run a corporation but got a high amount of money, but would still have the, the, the choice to be able to return. Right. You know, and, and kind of, mm-hmm. To, to these small towns and to travel. What do you think you would choose?

Erin: 31:09

I think I would probably choose to work in the city and then go live in a slower, smaller town if that was an option. But if I had to live in the city full time. But I guess if you're that rich, you get to live in like a really nice place. So yeah, maybe it wouldn't be so horrible you could take your helicopter back and forth. Yeah, I would take my helicopter. I wouldn't have to worry about traffic. I could leave the city if I want, so I would probably choose the city, but as long as it doesn't change who you are too much. But I don't know, it might be, it might be appealing. For a little bit.

Tanya: 31:46

I think that's the thing. I mean like how much would it change you, you know, kind of just having that going back and forth. But I'm with you. I think I would try this, the city job and kind of see, you know, is this, or just like, save up some money from that for a couple years and then return back. Yeah. You know, like I don't think I could do that forever or even like longer past, like a few years. I think I'd go get some money and then come back and be like, all, you know, and try to Yeah. I was say, because I grew up in this back in the town,

Erin: 32:13

I grew up in the small New England town and I'm not there, so for a reason. Yeah.'cause things don't change and it's, you know, it's nice to drive by and see it when you go back, but it's, you know, it, it does kind of time does stop sometimes in those small towns.

Tanya: 32:26

Yeah. And it is good to get. Away. I mean, you know, and to have that experience, I think with the way Mr. Deeds had it, or deeds, I don't know, goes by whatever, that he just had such a connection, such a community. And I don't think, I don't really feel that way about, you know, the town growing. No, I don't feel it

Erin: 32:43

like, yeah, when I go back, I don't feel it. But yeah, maybe if it was, somewhere else or something else.

Tanya: 32:49

Yeah. But I definitely wouldn't wanna like, spend the rest of my life in the city and doing that. No. Because I think that would probably change you. But I would give it a chance to kind of say, Hey, maybe I can make some money and invest back In something smaller that's closer to my values, you know? And kind of so I wouldn't lose myself Kind of thing. I know that sounds like a silly question, but just given the movie and the way it is Yeah. You know, I guess if we could something bet appeals and I

Erin: 33:12

guess if we could pick which city we lived in too, that might make a different too.

Tanya: 33:15

Yeah, that's true.

Erin: 33:17

Because there's certain cities I don't think I'd wanna live in,

Tanya: 33:19

Yeah. I do not like big cities. I, I don't either think big fan of it

Erin: 33:23

really increases my anxiety. So, um, there's that.

Tanya: 33:27

Yeah, I think it's cool to experience it for a few years, you know, that would be pretty, pretty nice, but I would not, you know, that'd be nice to just kind of make some money and Get out But usually people end up getting caught in it and keep going. Mm-hmm. And keep going. But I don't know. I think you and I would be pretty grounded. Like being like, this is enough kind of thing. Yeah. So, we hope you enjoyed this discussion on Mr. Deeds and Adam Sandler and Winona Rider. As you can tell, we are huge fans. We will never stop being it. and we will probably bring up other people like we have with Cher that you'll just get to know all the different, yeah.

Erin: 34:05

So maybe now it's, Adam, we'll find out different things about Adam Sandler.

Tanya: 34:10

We get hyper fixations on people. Yeah. And we will continue to do so. And this is not limited to, well, anyone will continue to bring up people and have, and be like, yeah, yeah. And then just hyper fix on. So, and then, and then you'll

Erin: 34:21

see them, then you'll see us do a show on them exactly a few weeks later and you'll be like, oh, okay. I remember them talking about this.

Tanya: 34:28

Yeah. So keep that pattern in mind.

Erin: 34:32

that's how a few of our things have come up.

Tanya: 34:34

Yeah. and that's the best way it comes up organically. We, we very much, that's how Aaron and I work.

Erin: 34:40

even the whole show, I mean like our show, it's morphed a little bit.'cause originally we were gonna be very straight talking about. Therapy things and yeah, just all like, how does this work? Let's explain therapy and trends. And then we're like, okay. And then we just happened to talk about shows and we're like, this is fun. let's go. what do we like? We like eighties and nineties and we like other stuff and then we like comedies. So then it started to morph into that naturally, and I think we've kind of found our groove with this even though my husband calls us Cisco and Uber,

Tanya: 35:11

I don't mind that

Erin: 35:12

That's okay. I mean, they made a lot of money, so I'm fine with that.

Tanya: 35:15

I don't mind just, just talking about movies and shows and just, you know, because we're always trying to, we're not just evaluating if we liked it or not, although that comes along, but we're always trying to like, squeeze out mental health themes that maybe you wouldn't have thought of. So that's our perspective. we just like to talk about it. So it's fun and

Erin: 35:31

I think it works. And I hope everyone enjoys it.

Tanya: 35:34

Yeah, I think so. I hope so too. And, yeah, let us know if you have any suggestions or anything you'd like to see us do in the future. Any comments? Any reviews, greatly appreciated.

Erin: 35:44

sorry. And we're not just stuck on the eighties and nineties and early two thousands, so if there's new shows, you'll see, like we have done new ones, so if there's anything on any of the streaming stuff or anything that you're like, Hey, have you seen this movie or this show, let us know.

Tanya: 35:59

Yeah. love to hear and follow us on socials. We're on Instagram, Facebook, and now YouTube. Yes. So you can see our faces just fully

Erin: 36:08

engaged and We got our first comment on YouTube too, so when actually said they liked our video, so that's pretty exciting. Thank you person.

Tanya: 36:18

Thank you. We appreciate that. No, we love that because it's a new realm for us, But yeah, we hope you like this and you give it some thought or just have some suggestions for the future.

Erin: 36:28

Yeah. Well, thank you. And don't forget, stay wicked and keep your mind well. All right. Have a great week and we'll see you next week. Bye-bye. Bye guys.